Relationships in Times of Mass Extinction

Any man is liable to err, only a fool persists in error.

– Marcus Cicero

The refugee crisis of 2015 (that is still waiting to reach its peak) has highlighted the Western resource and wealth inequality to the extent, where people are no longer able to deny its effects. The most common stressor that disturbs the balance of any relationship is money problems. It is one thing to be unable to afford going out on Friday night, it is quite another to scavenge for food. Women and men alike have their breaking point. However, it appears that over the previous years, men have been more greatly affected by the recessions than women. Once survival is threatened, all bets are off. The balance of power in the relationship is altered beyond the point of return.

One does not have to be mentally or emotionally unstable to break it off, when one’s partner is unable to provide. In many Western cultures, this behaviour is even encouraged. In fact, one would have to be either so mentally stable/unstable that it borders on sociopathic tendencies to stay. However, it also results in countless broken homes and single parents fending by themselves. Although everyone should have to prerogative to act as they choose, it is hard times that determine the strength of a relationship. If we all were to stray at the first sight of trouble, mankind would have never made it to present day. Nonetheless, many blood-lines most likely only survived, because they did whatever was necessary to ensure the continued existence of themselves and therefore their genetic lineage. One may argue that the current disposable nature of society has driven its inhabitants to view their relationships as equally disposable. While divorce sky-rockets, few strive to patch things up, regardless of what mistakes were made. The problems have begun to extend beyond the relationship and can rarely be reconciled, merely overcome.

For example, adultery has less of an impact on the outcome of relationships than money concerns. Whereas many can forgive the occasional slip-up, constant financial worries are overcome far less often. From personal experience, I can attest to the fact that long-term relationships are hard work, but they are also very rewarding, if you are with the right person. After two years, the relationship is still relatively fresh, however, many couples decide to tie the knot after approximately a year (dependent on age). In other words, the length of a relationship only partly affects the impact of financial woes. When women are put in the position of fuel poverty, starvation or homelessness, the majority will seek a more suitable mate that can meet their base requirements. However, the minority are either so in love that it does not matter or they are invested in the relationship for different reasons. Although it is often assumed that sex is a primary reason for this, I’ve always found it insufficient and unrealistic. Sexual pleasure can cloud the mind so far, before other needs become more pressing. Besides, homeless couples rarely have the opportunity to be intimate. Their bond is one much deeper. Theirs is one that goes beyond the material. In fact, research suggests couples that endure traumatic experiences or persistent hardship are more likely to stay together. In a way, the trust that is forged between couples when surviving life-threatening circumstances is profound and far less often betrayed. Couples describe a sense of knowing their partner at their best and at their worst. However, they also emphasise the uncertainty of entering a new relationship with a new partner that may not cope as effectively. One particular couple that I was acquainted with suffered great ordeals, only for the husband to pass on from a fatal head-wound two months after they had finally resettled. The wife found herself at the beginning of a complicated, long-winded grieving process, in which she closed herself off from the world. The one thing we had in common at the time was the fact that she could not imagine a relationship with any other type of man. When she began dating after a year of therapy, she asked me to call her an hour in to provide her with an emergency exit strategy. Despite the fact, she was comfortable socialising, she was bored out of her mind, listening to his macho tales. All she could hear was incessant jabbering about the newest gadgets, newest fashion and the woe-is-me tales of ex girlfriends that were probably drawn way out of proportion. As was evident, they were rather ill-matched. For most women, a financially stable man is irresistibly attractive, but wealth can disappear in an instant. Bankruptcy, financial hardship or other unfortunate experiences affect the way a minority of women operate. Particularly, when it comes down to selecting a mate.

Few men and women cope well during financial turmoil, which is understandable, since it is a matter of working progress. In Apocalypse & the Middle-Classes, I explained that different social classes cope differently when disaster strikes. The lead-up to mass extinction is grinding society to a halt, in some of the most inhumane ways to keep itself going for as long as possible. Without adequate food production and distribution to all of the planet, over a quarter of the species already live in poverty without proper nutrition. Adding the refugee crisis to the equation only shows how thin we are stretching ourselves with highly destructive tools to feed, clothe and shelter all. Once more, it highlights inadequate wealth and resource production, distribution and renewal. The resources we take, we do not replenish. The manner through which we produce these resources is not merely flawed but environmentally hazardous. Without addressing the root cause of our problems, we are and/or will be forced to resort to extreme measures to survive. In sum, our way of living inevitably affects our reproductive behaviour. For some women that means trading up, for others that means turning tricks, but for a small minority it means to reflect on the bigger picture. Each of those three coping mechanisms have their roots in fallen civilisations. Although prostitution is thought of as the oldest of all professions, it is generally discouraged and disapproved of in modern society, even in the most dire circumstances. Therefore, it is a road less travelled. Looking for another mate is considered the more logical option. But when everyone is just as worse off, who are you going to choose? Mass extinction invariably impedes on the logic of reproduction, in times where the survival of the species is threatened. This could result in reproductive behaviour reverting back to a time when the sacrifice of one’s own life for the life of the infant was a common occurrence. In other words, we may revert back to a time when we would had to selflessly play against the odds of our long-term survival for the sake of short-term happiness. The brutal truth is that few would willingly choose that end, if push comes to shove. Conversely, there are always be those that will.

“Some people view love and romance as a sacred bond between two individuals. Other people see love as a game, where the goal is to manipulate another individual and gain emotional power over a partner.”

In conclusion, it is often argued that women are driven to go where the food is on an evolutionary basis, unless conditioned behaviour or other events supersede the most basic survival mechanisms. This is particularly the case in societies where farming is not an option or prohibited by law. It is inferred that this is what makes us more likely to cheat, but only a small minority of women have it so bad that it justifies adultery, as they could technically decide to leave at anytime. Commitment issues are only a small part of why relationships fail. Uncertainty, misrepresentation, distrust or outright deceit are all the more manifest in presence of commitment and abandonment issues. On a separate note, a former client of mine always used to say “Women are like money’s. They won’t let go of the old branch until they’ve got a new one.” Despite his troubled past with women, he has a point. Ironically, his statement is true for a large percentage of men and women. Research suggests men and women are more prone to jumping from one relationship into another when the partner is far from what they’re looking for and a more suitable mate presents itself. However, it begs the question whether emotional attachment serves as an indicator of balance in the relationship. As an unhealthy degree of emotional attachment can develop in any relationship, it is often useful to take time and reflect…To continuously invest effort and resources into the relationship as a sign of commitment, if it is one-sided can hamper marital bliss and equality. However, some are not capable of reciprocity, even if the issue is addressed repeatedly. Particularly, where money is tight and emotions run too high for personal comfort. In that case, one has to either accept that they may not change or walk away.

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Worlds End

As the recent climate changes have become to affect the main areas of England to the degree of interfering with the National Rail and the average citizen on a daily basis. The time for a special kind of realization has come. The weather will only worsen. When was the last time you saw a polar vortex in the middle of New York…Was it on The Day After Tomorrow? Now what’s the chance of that actually happening years later in real life? A billion to one? Whether it is the terra-forming of the planet with composites using carbon dioxide or it is the planet attempting to compensate for the melting of the ice caps, it is happening and has been happening for years, gradually worsening…gradually increasing. Yet, as we all frankly are not bothered about an issue until it knocks on our front door, although by then it will most likely be too late. We have become a race that is overwhelmed with emotional rather than academic or spiritual concepts. Our presence of mind is often maintained by habits, routines, comfort and luxury. Instant gratification has become the science of marketing. The social constructs that have been built around society have become weakened, as they have outlived their usefulness. They have become a burden to the very individuals that they were designed to serve. Truth be told, we have come to favour breeding strength rather than intellect. We seek protection and within a world, in which it cannot exist, due to the widespread of corruption. Currently, we are told that the earth is overpopulated…Only for the amount of fossil fuel that is used. Truth be told, smaller numbers are easier to control and manipulate. Yet, one must not forget the most important rule within combat…Leave no ground left to go to. Economic and gorilla warfare have brought this planet to a unified financial crisis. Swiss bankers are even feeling the lightening of their wallets. Yet, what use is money, if the system around you is collapsing?

The chemtrails are merely further evidence of environmental as well as behavioural modification. Aggression and violence spreads. However, as previously discussed in my post about the middle class during an apocalypse scenario, one may also wish to consider the possibility of NASA spaceships leaving the planet upon global catastrophe. Truth be told, any female passenger would experience a loss of libido. Zero gravity experiments in space have shown that men and women experience an alteration within their biochemical framework, which results in a general lack of interest in sex. In fact, countless females that had been tested have ultimately turned lesbian as a consequence. No explanation for the phenomena has yet been found. Now, one may wish to ask the same question in regards to peadophilia, one may assume that the same rules apply, although it has not yet been officially tested. This would leave very little interest in the continuation of human kind, if mankind were to even reach that step, which is highly doubtful, considering our position within the galactic order at present. The inevitable conclusion is that the face of the planet is changing beyond the point of return and countless more will suffer as a consequence until those in charge begin to act in the better interest of humanity, directly contrasting their self-interests, which is even more doubtful. Therefore, it remains the duty of the people to act.

Dating a Higher Functioning Sociopath – Part 3

Within mating, any individual forms a conscious or unconscious template of a suitable partner. This is often referred to as the love-map. It is constructed during early childhood between the ages of 3 and 6. The mental image of a suitable mate however is ever-changing, and is customized according to the individuals reality matrix. If this concept were to be combined with the overall socially engineered preference towards taller males, due to the ancient myth of height equals strength, suddenly a conception has been created that terrifies most of society. The short, highly intelligent sociopath. One that doesn’t take no for an answer, when faced with hypocrisy or social politics. Personally, I am of the opinion that anyone is capable of anything, if they perceive the situation calls for it or their survival is dependent upon it. Short or tall. Both groups are fully capable of genocidal acts. Nonetheless, throughout the recent years, I have noticed a pattern amongst individuals in my life. The partner can do anything, be unemployed, not have a car or even pay the bills, as long as he is of sufficient height for individuals to not wish to argue against it. Yet, if you were to then put a short individual in front of them, they change their opinion 180 degrees, refuting and denying their previous viewpoint to the point of utter irrationality. Another time, a close friend actually stated that she is disgusted by short men. When I enquired about her reasoning, she stated that they were the scum of society and one shouldn’t associate oneself with them for too long. These are mere justifications towards an opinion that is overly judgmental over an individual that she had never encountered.

There are two conversation blockers. Sociopathy and Heightism. Once the conversational partner has processed both subjects separately, one may actually be able to combine the concept without them running for the hills. Why is it that society appears to be so utterly terrified by the short, higher functioning sociopath? To the degree of complete disacknowledgement of the facts. A wise man reminded me about a fact that I learnt a long time ago, sociopathy is a scale. With childhood sociopathy even more so, as the individual is still progressing through vital stages of development. There are variant degrees of severity. In my professional opinion, sociopaths are either abnormally feared or approached with extreme bias. Mankind has become so caught up with their feelings that the absence of reaction or emotional feedback irritates and provokes them often bringing further imbalance to their rational mind. It is often stated that the presence of a Monk radiates undisturbed calmness and tranquility, soothing those around them. Yet, a monk displays a level of the same traits as the sociopath. How does the presence of one calm and the other agitate? The stigma that is attached to mere mention of the term sociopath is often wrongfully connected with psychopathy, which merely complicates the full comprehension of the condition. However, society in itself is becoming more indifferent towards one another, displaying more sociopathic and psychopathic traits. There is, however, one preconception that does not apply with the combination of heightism and sociopathy. That height equals strength. Truth be told, I’d fight a tall guy one-on-one any day. Short guy, no way. They fight too rough. I’ve seen one short male drop three 6’4ft thugs in under 1 minute. Mind you, I’ve only met two short sociopaths in my life, the others were all 6ft and above. The taller sociopaths that I have encountered were more prone to violence, although all of them were above average intelligence, they had become accustomed to prefer the use of their fists. The short sociopaths were of highly intelligence with knowledge of the practical applications regarding their ideas. A few I would consider geniuses for their contributions towards science and humanity itself. One revolutionized genetics when he has around 10 years old by composing an academic paper for a Californian Institute. Another mastered the depth of mathematics during his teenage years. Truth be told, a book should not be judged by its cover. Humanity is becoming less caring of their fellow man, more prone to emotional outbursts and displays a general disconnection towards the outside world as well as other members of society. That is in itself is a sociopathic trait. Mankind is often too quick to judge, yet unwilling to change themselves, still in denial regarding their gradual increase of despondence and indifference. A stage of evolution is approaching humanity and it is your choice, which way you will take.