How To Survive Torture In War

You cannot conquer the mind of a man, if you do not know his heart
…and you cannot win over his heart, if so you do not know his mind

When we think of hard times in the West, we think of homelessness, unemployment or reading about the daily terror attack in the newspaper. We do not think of situations in terms of third world countries, as we perceive our way of life to be above a state, where our societies could easily revert back to the Middle Ages… Although a significant percentage of the global population understand that this may be inevitable, as a result of our modern lifestyle, we simply don’t want the carousel-ride to end just yet.

This leads me to the question, when can we be fully prepared to watch our civilisation fall? A week, a month, or even few years, after finding out? How long until our attachments to the way we live fade? How long until our aversion to the violence and genocide that routinely happens in other countries no longer has a hold on us? Truth be told, we may as well wait for the return of the old Gods… No attachment or aversion disappears on its own. (Exceptions make the rule!) Few reach the heights of comfort without any external stimuli that exhaust their worldly desires.

The war-drums are warming up. Every beat ushers in a new age…Yet, it’s arrival will be marked by the death of millions and destruction of almost everything we’ve come to know. Whether we are ready is irrelevant to our leaders as well as our enemies, as long as the outcome compares to what they’ve had in mind.

Ladies and gentlemen, this is war… Not the average long-distance or turf war, but the genocide of all ethnicities that do not submit to political correctness and/or religious authority.

In view of cultural traditions all over the world, Merkel, Clinton and Abbot paint a picture of women in the modern age… Women in power have become patsies that are incapable of making intelligent decisions with forethought and common sense. We are now represented by women that can be bought for a price and it’ll seal their fate as well as our own.

In Islam, women are commonly mistreated and forced to engage in activities that they’d rather not, but the current imperialistic conquest has given them the time to breathe, as their fathers, husbands, uncles and sons focus their attention elsewhere… That won’t last long. However, for victims of prolonged sexual slavery, those few weeks or months, when they’re not raped several times a day/night, is a blessing… Fear of pain and suffering clouds their minds to such a degree that extreme forms of Stockholm syndrome can hardly compare to how deeply they have been brainwashed. Sadly, they will not be the last. Without anything but blind faith to hold onto, no one resists brainwashing indefinitely…

Whatever happens, it is only temporary. Regardless of what it is, it cannot last. Nothing does. Knowing this, we can survive the unspeakable and the insufferable. Although whatever and whoever is inflicting pain would like you to believe that they can do so forever… They truly cannot.

Silence

As long as you communicate as little information as possible (in the form of opinions, plans), you limit the knowledge others have about you. Information, even false information, is revealing. If you are expected to provide information, don’t give any. Don’t think that by giving information or conforming, religious oppression stops…To the contrary, that gives the impression that the more pressure is applied, the more you will give. It is an endless process.

It is important to remember systematically subjecting an individual to maltreatment is intended to destroy their personality, their sense of identity, their confidence and their ability to function. When we don’t convey or openly share who we are, then those attempting to change us are at a disadvantage. In the case of forced conversion, this is more difficult. It is easier to comply and do as is expected, but it never ends there.

For those that wish to enforce laws, which disempower women of all races with the purpose of enabling immediate gratification for the opposite gender under religious pretences, submission is the key to victory. If an individual does not comply and continues to fight, regardless of how excessive the punishment may become, there is often no other choice than to kill them. However, when there is a scarcity of women, creating a martyr can have side-effects. The more martyrs are created in the name of a just cause, the more follow suit. It should be noted here that life-threatening circumstances can break brainwashing as much as it can reinforce it.

Starvation: In muslim countries, it is common practice to deprive Christians of more than the bare essentials to force their religious conversion to Islam. Often, they are treated worse than African-American slaves, as a result of their religious orientation. Whereas black slaves could sing, practice their own religion and even build families with their own kind, Islam does not allow their slaves to have any of the above. In fact, life-threatening maltreatment is encouraged to force women to convert in the hope that they’ll be abused less frequently.
People die from starvation and prolonged malnutrition every day… In an age, where food waste is prevalent, most are not familiar with how starvation affects mental processes. Most that have experienced anything remotely similar often look at the way we live with disgust. Internally, they fear that they’ll return to their former living conditions, which could easily lead to a very painful death. Only a small percentage would suffer through such an ordeal again without being willing to do anything to avert such a fate.

First of all, it takes a great deal of strength as well as self-control to starve, when there is the illusion of an alternative… After not having eaten for days, the mere sight, smell or sound of food yields psycho-physical reactions, as if a deep, silent rage is brewing on the inside. Hatred for those depriving you, when they have plenty to share, can seem like the only thing keeping you alive. Without that feeling, people often give up… They reach a point, when don’t merely lose hope, they lose something that can’t be regained without years of trauma recovery.
It takes approx. 65 days to die from starvation as long as you keep hydrated. When water is scarce, that time can be halved easily. Without any resources, an individual can survive from 22-26 days without any sustenance. In countries, such as India, it is permitted to end one’s life through a holy fast when spiritual liberation in this life is no longer possible. As irrelevant as this anecdote may sound, this practice has provided interesting information to answer related research questions. For the average individual, it is almost impossible to refrain from eating after days, when food is put in front of them. For example, after groups of survivors were freed from the KZs in Germany, they were provided with food and water. The problem was that they had been starved to such an extent, their bodies couldn’t process solids anymore. Most of what they ate, they regurgitated…Only a handful survived. Primarily those that were too ill to eat anything survived as they did not consume anything until the second rescue team arrived with a nutritional powder that they stirred into the drinking water. After their bodies had adjusted to digesting the liquid solution that provided the nutrients needed for the nutrient absorption, digesting solids no longer had such devastating effects.

On a separate note, food or drink are often used as tools to taunt people in captivity… Although it is often recommended not to eat or drink anything in captivity, when the body-mind complex has been deprived of sustenance for long enough, there is an inner drive to ingest whatever nutrition is provided. In some cases, prisoners of war have been desperate enough to consume their own urine or even the urine of their captors, when they had no other option. In other words, if you’re hungry or thirsty enough, you’ll consume almost anything edible, as it better than nothing. Restraining yourself from doing that takes a lot of energy initially. Your mind will play tricks on you, as the deprivation elicits extreme emotions. The key is to work through them quietly. Think over every thought that comes to your mind before you utter a single word. More importantly, let painful thoughts go. They won’t lessen your suffering, only perpetuate it.

Not So Crazy Side-Note: The desire to consume food comes from the need for sustenance in the absence of enlightenment. The further one looks into this, one understands that the need for sustenance comes from a deep-desire for self-preservation. The rational mind does not comprehend that physical sustenance is as illusory as our physical reality. It is only necessary as long as we are still on the path to self-realisation. Once we are self-realised, eating and drinking are not only optional, they are restricted to clean, vegetarian choices.

Important Note For Women: Reducing the daily amount of food and water prevents pregnancy and can induce a miscarriage, but it also makes it more likely to give birth to females rather than males, if the pregnancy is carried to term. Feel free to do your own research.

Pain: Discard hope of rescue or religious salvation. Hope is a pipe-dream, when pain becomes unbearable. Thinking clearly becomes impossible, as automatic behaviour takes over. For instance, instinctively speaking in other languages, using religious terms as swear words or praying audibly are prime examples of how we can lose control in ways that may have unfavourable consequences. Escaping pain is impossible by distancing yourself from it, so embrace it. Go beyond like or dislike to a place where none of that matters and pain has no hold on you. Inflicting any kind of pain often involves prolonged time-periods of close, excruciating confinement with no human interaction. Resistance creates tension, which in turn creates more pain… As difficult as it may sound, relax your body. Aim to relax all your muscles and let go of all tension. Let pain be your teacher to attain freedom from suffering.

Whatever happens, the first and most dangerous approach relies on you to go the distance. The closer you let them bring you to death, the more you create a dilemma as to whether you should be saved or not. “Logic dictates that if you aren’t saved, then you have spared yourself a much longer and more painful death. You must, beyond everything, believe in the sanctity of your being to take such an approach. You must be willing to lay your life on the line, from whatever shattered sense of identity you still retain.”

Another approach is to abandon all reasoning. To reduce yourself to a level of instinctual awareness, and try to stay alive. Think nothing. Focus on the breath. Witness every thought as a passing visitor. Do not look to the future, instead empty your mind. “Concentrate only on obtaining oxygen. You will either succumb, or they will deem the operation too high a risk to continue. Again, if they deem you an asset they will not force your death. If they execute you in such a fashion, your execution merely happened early.”

Sleep Deprivation: As the most effective method to break down all mental barriers, sleep deprivation is the cornerstone of warfare. It accompanies almost all forms of torture. Again, resist as little as possible. Throw yourself into disorientation and carry on. It may drive you temporarily insane, but that is still better than the alternatives. You may speak non-sense and see connections that you otherwise wouldn’t, yet as long as you remain at least a little self-aware in a disorientated state, you can minimise the damage.

For those already living near mosques, the loudspeakers echoing across entire street-blocks are just an example of how openly fanatical religious practices can intrude on the day-to-day lives of others without them patrolling the streets. Merely a week of coping with nightly sleep deprivation takes its toll on the mind. After several weeks, things begin to get blurry… Now, imagine that taking part is no longer optional. Imagine that your life depends on cooperating (with a religious institution that you have no respect for). Think of the stress created by physical violence and forced conversion in addition to extreme deprivation as the go-to strategy for Islam. Preying on basic needs by driving a thumbnail into the instinct for self-preservation is common behaviour, as it has worked for thousands of years. The only means to render such warfare strategies useless is to overcome any hold that our basic needs have on us.

The requirement to sleep is the most difficult to work with. The more relaxed we are, the less we are plagued by the need to sleep… Maintaining mental and physical silence greatly assists this process. Also, increased bodily awareness to release tension conserves small amount of energy, which encourages vasodilation, in turn improving circulation.

Isolation: Any form of deprivation is worsened in social isolation. With multiple captors and a single victim, the captive often feels more isolated than in one-on-one situations. As women are frequently kidnapped by religious fanatics and held in groups, it is important to note that every captive will eventually reach a point when converting seems like the only thing that could end their suffering, apart from death. This option seems more ‘acceptable’, as other captives convert. However, as stated previously, subjecting to their will becomes an endless, downward spiral. Pray silently. Speak to yourself. Do whatever is necessary to maintain your sanity, but ensure that you do it quietly in your mind without anyone finding out about it…

Extremes of Heat & Cold: The idea of embracing hopelessness and using your own fatalism to your advantage is only one approach to defend yourself against the temperature extremes. An Eastern method involves the use of Zen meditation, which represents the best solution to endure prolonged extremes of heat. As a coping mechanism for someone locked in a deep freeze, it doesn’t work, because slowing down anything in your body could be suicide. If enough space is provided, the best answer to extreme cold would be to never stop moving. If this is not possible, singing a song or praying has been said to help victims in the past. The abuse of prisoners with extremes of heat and cold illustrates how different situations warrant different methods for holding on.

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From Rape to Assisted Suicide

This morning I opened up the newspaper and to my surprise…Euthanasia is now administered to sexually abused, chronically ill children around the age of 12, if they feel that they cannot move on with their lives. The article went on to state that many more people are choosing euthanasia as a result of mental illness. As a psychologist, I may be able to shed some light on how to cope and intervene without taking such desperate measures. (Taking my personal history of mistreatment into consideration, I might not be the most objective observer, but at least I speak only the truth.)
If this topic concerns you, I’d like you to know that I understand…I have been where you are. It is easier to be ‘put to sleep’ and simply restart at another time or place, but what lesson are we teaching? What we are basically saying to others and ourselves is “It’s okay that you’re hurt, but since we can’t fix you, how would you like us to assist you in your suicide?” when we should be letting them know that they don’t have to go through this alone…that they don’t have to die, because the world is corrupt and there is little other free support.
Many that fall victim to a sexual predator can’t simply forget or move on, especially children. They no longer view themselves as innocent. Moreover, if the parents push their own responsibility for the abuse onto their child, this can develop into severe identity problems. After less than a year, their view of the world becomes distorted. They begin to feel guilty and undeserving. Many stop speaking, eating and socialising. Every breath they take becomes a reminder of how responsible they were for what happened… The pain, they feel, doesn’t vanish. It festers…but many never say a word for one reason: The majority get hurt for being hurt.
This can occur in countless ways, but most commonly, victims of sexual assault express how these experiences continue to harm them internally, which leads to one of several negative reactions: (a) apathy/cold indifference, (b) dismissal, (c) misplaced rage, (d) misplaced sadness
Many of the people I’ve worked with struggled to make their voices heard initially. When they discuss what they how they feel during recovery, close relatives tended to drift off topic. One minute they’re crying their eyes out about how Uncle Joe bent them over the table, nearly tearing them a new asshole, while the relative that they’re confiding in is too occupied, thinking about how Uncle Joe still owes them a tenner. In my early student years, I despised conducting family therapy for that reason, simply because sometimes there is no happy ending. Some people will never love their children or family members the way they would like them to. With or without the application of force, they probably never will, but telling a survivor that is painful. It pries into a primal fear of abandonment that we all share. No child should be expected to deal with abuse and then neglect, it sets very bad standards and lowers expectations in others from the outset.
None of the responses listed above are rational or even helpful but that has never stopped people. However, before we judge, it’s vital to understand that they don’t know how to cope with the situation. If forced to confront the reality of the situation, they’d shut down, cry hysterically or experience a depressive episode. It should be noted that approx. half have traumatic experiences of their own that they keep bottled up that need to processed first before they can support loved one’s through such tough times.
On a related note, we can all be rather self-centred without meaning to be, when someone we care about shares something to deeply personal. However, when we don’t take them seriously, it can have grave consequences. Particularly, when the tables turn. Many abused children drift apart from friends or relatives that are then later abused…and the first person they call is someone they know who experienced similar. Although what these friends often do not take into consideration is that no half-hearted apology makes up for something like that. In frequency, these friendships were imbalanced from the start. One cared more about the other and less about themselves. Then, the assault occurred and they no longer care about their own life, let alone the problems of the former prom-queen, social butterfly or alpha female of the group.

Post-Traumatic Stress: Dependent on when, where and how an assault takes place is important when it comes down to moving forward. Many survivors struggle to return to their old life. In cases, in which a boyfriend is a part of the equation, recovery can become complicated. Whereas some men are more supportive than others, the subject of sexual intercourse is bound to cause tension, unless there is ample space for open dialogue.

Identifying Stressors & Flashbacks: After a traumatic event, latent impressions of the experience inadvertently imprinted themselves on the mind. Survivors can develop aversions to the opposite or same sex, tools used during the assault, specific locations etc. For example, if an individual was tied and gagged during repeated assaults, they can easily be spooked by S&M. Conversely, some survivors unconsciously relive the experience by engaging in self-destructive behaviour, which can become heavily sexualised.
Although typical responses are sadness, rage, panic or other forms of extreme emotion, when coming into contact with a stressor or object/subject that triggers a flashback. From personal experience, I’ve found that resistance is futile. The more we resist the memory or image, the more it rages underneath the surface. Therefore, it is highly important to be patient and don’t be too hard on yourself. Reminders will crop up, but they don’t have to rule your life. One day, you’ll be able to look at something that would usually remind you of the worst times in your life and it’ll no longer be the root of your stress or the first thing you are reminded of.
Confront your stressor, but don’t go overboard. If it scares you, approach it slowly. If it angers you, charge at it with all your might. If it upsets you, let it out through a good cry, but never bury it. Burying a stressor is dangerous! The more you aim to ignore it, the more ferociously it’ll come through. If it sets your teeth on edge, there’s a reason. Learning that reason will benefit your personal growth and make your more resilient.

Stressors can awaken memories of a time, when we felt powerless, violated and/or deeply injured. In combination with flashbacks, they give the impression that the event is still ongoing. In a split second, a survivor can feel as if they are right back where it all started…As if no time passed. The lines between the past and present can become blurred, particularly if the abuse remains ongoing or happened not too long ago. In other words, living in present time becomes a challenge, when we are locked in a mental prison of our past. Every deeply traumatic experience forces us to re-learn how to live. That means learning how to accept what happened and moving forward.
Survivors Guilt: Thousands of men, women and children throughout the ages have experienced the most horrific forms of sexual abuse. Some of which survive, when those close to them did not. Driven by the experience, some strive to make their lives mean something. With every nightmare, failure and accomplishment, the guilt compounds, until it literally becomes the prime motivator behind their actions. In their eyes, the amount of suffering they feel was created by them, through whatever they did. In rare cases, it can manifest through the very fact that they survived, whereas others did not. More importantly, it is something that they cannot forgive, overcome or let go without assistance…Without some form of acknowledgement that it is okay, others simply need to hear that there is nothing wrong with them. They did what they needed to do to survive and they are still loved regardless. In cases with a high suicide risk, associated with survivors guilt, it can be very helpful to give them to opportunity to express themselves without being judged or criticised. In therapy, I use the method of creating a safe space for them to share their thoughts or unburden their darkest secrets. This can be easily done with friends or relatives at home. In some extreme cases, survivors just need to hear that they are forgiven to forgive themselves, which is more effective when it is conveyed by people that knew them before the event.

Relationships: As a survivor, the world no longer looks the same, nor do we connect to it in the same way. Opening ourselves to others can become difficult for the lack of empathy or shared experience. To the average man, women can be instantly downgraded to just another ‘rape-case’ or ‘woe-woman story’. So many women avoid sharing as to not make themselves look like a victim. This makes genuine relationships difficult and fosters commitment issues.
Many women choose not to share their past experiences with prospective or actual partners. Although this may seem like a justified defensive measure, how close can we truly be to someone, when we shut a part of ourselves off? If they cannot accept that part of ourselves, how can they accept us for who we truly are? My personal advice is for survivors to take a chance. If we never openly discuss what happened, how are we meant to find closure? How are we supposed to be expected to live with what happened, when we can’t acknowledge it to those we love?