Appointment with Death – What If We Can’t?


What is life and who has the right to judge what should or shouldn’t be? Who has control over what can and can’t be? We may think the miracle of life as something sacred that must only be prevented in the case of physical harm to the mother or forced conception. We might occasionally imagine how precious moments of togetherness could foster a lasting bond...But there is a clear line when fantasy meets reality, which is birth

We can ponder what could be until the rest of eternity, however, we cannot escape the consequences of our actions once we reach a certain point. The further along we are, the more our options are limited until only two remain. Up to the 8th week, chemical abortion through a small pill is offered at free clinics. Although there is mild discomfort and some bleeding, the procedure is considered to be physically harmless. Up to the 10th week, surgical removal of the foetus is permitted by scooping it out. Outside of Europe, there are often alternatives further along in the pregnancy. Personally, I would be uncomfortable exploring any option above the pill, unless I truly wanted to get “that thing” out of me. However, dependent on the circumstances, pregnancy can alter our perception not merely through sentimentality or hormones…Every woman must make her own decision. One that is right for her and her alone. Nobody else. Whether others approve of her decision should be irrelevant, as it is her body. If her personal philosophy cannot reconcile with the idea and move forward, then what is she to do? This is a decision many women face, who still believe in the importance of upholding their values…due to what most call a lapse of judgement… As a teenager, in my opinion, to make the choice is less complicated. With so much life unlived, we ought to not burden ourselves before collecting experiences. Yet, once we are close to thirty, we begin to wonder…when could we be in a bearable position financially? How old do we want to be when our kids leave home? Our answers are nothing compared to the real thing. When opportunity knocks, everything changes. If we are barely getting by, but can’t take the leap, then would choose would destroy herself…by the going against every inch of her faith or by the burden of becoming a single mother…either choice would destroy something within…by going against every inch of ourselves or by the burden of becoming a single mother… When we struggle for whatever reason before the pregnancy, our hardship won’t lessen. People around us will not ease off on their stressful interactions with us at appropriate as well as inappropriate times. In fact, they will persist further. When the odds are morally debatable, then others may act in ways toward the pregnant woman that are unethical, abusive or even life-threatening. She must accept the responsibility to protect her offspring, if she wishes to keep it. Sadly, nothing is guaranteed. We cannot shield ourselves or others, just from the consequences of our own choices after we have decided. Once we make either choice, we must commit completely and never waiver. After all, we are playing with death in the attempt to control life…for comfort ot even for all the right reasons, but always at a steep cost.

We must never give up believing in the potential for nurture to bring out the best in someone brought up in the most unfavourable circumstances. It can be the cliché of the only good thing to come out of a situation, but we must bear it mind, it might not be… It could be the catalyst for something else entirely…

Ultimately, our choice is all about what we can live with. What we desired before we conceived may not be what we want now. What we clung to in order to keep us going might no longer get us through this. Both decisions can be a sign of strength, when we are in full pursuit of our heart. When we “deal with” an unwanted or wanted pregnancy and move forward without psychological fallout, then we have coped in a way that was right for us. Conversely, when we choose to carry to term, because we simply cannot terminate for whatever reason, we are equally doing right by us. In truth, there is no right or wrong, when it comes to abortion. As long as we make a decision, we can commit to in the long run, we have chosen correctly. The worst thing we can do is allow ourselves to be pressured into something that we aren’t ready for. Under no circumstances, should we tolerate threats for how we deal with the situation or our final choice. These are merely means to coerce us into solving a perceived problem, which impacts you more than them, in a certain way that suits them…However, due to their egotistical nature, they could fail to acknowledge how the decision-making process weighs on you or how the added stress can prevent you from forming a conclusion with a clear head.

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More Than Human


There’s a place,
Where you can set your illusions on fire
And watch them burn.
Out of the ashes of all lost hope,
A newly conceived dream rises.
The endeavor of peace…
Of brotherhood…
Of a united species with a single objective.
The attainment of truth.
A future that hangs in the balance.
Injustice persists,
When good men fail to act.

There’s a place,
Where with every passing day,
More blood is shed in wars over resources.
More of the arctic melts away,
Flooding the shores.
Greed and lust for power masquerades,
As the assertive hand of peacekeeping.
The clock slowly ticks away,
Whilst each and every idea is gift-wrapped,
As the intellectual property of the new world.
Exposure to toxic chemicals is increased.
Injustice persists,
Since good men fail to act.

There’s a place,
In which knowledge flows
Through the fabric of reality…
In which nothing is as it seems,
Happiness is a choice,
And the truth will set you free.
Peace represents a state of harmony,
Created out of mere kindness…
By the desire of the species
To share with one another
Without condition or consequence
In such a way that has no end.
To act in kind,
Even against all the odds.

Dating a Higher Functioning Sociopath – Part 1


Living with a sociopath is not easy…It is living the way of will with them.

There are countless types of men. It was Carl Jung that proposed to uniqueness of every psyche and therefore every living being. Yet, there are genetic predispositions, which affect the manner in which the consciousness functions within the pre-selected body. Sociopathy is neurologically defined as exhibiting characteristics that imply a reduced input and output of emotion. Consequently, they perceive the phenomenal world in an entirely different manner. It should also be noted that the military refuses to allow sociopaths to participate in the lower ranks of the army. As the end justifies the means for them. As a professional counselor, I more often than not encounter articles that are scientifically flawed, as they intertwine psychopathy and sociopathy, which are two entirely different congenital “disorders”. After years of working with individuals that have become numbed by emotion with very little social will or ability to distance themselves from the drama that is being continually perpetuated by them. I at one point also went down that very same path, yet managed to avert my own self-destructive tendencies in order to provide support for others. I have discovered that the human inclination to become caught up in emotion is also that which repels us in regards to sociopaths. Not all their viewpoints are extreme. We often picture them as evil incarnate. The man or woman that is incapable of love and cannot be loyal to anyone. This statement is utterly inaccurate. The emotional connection is reduced. This does not imply that it is non-existent. Truth be told, sociopaths are often tormented by external circumstances due to their lack of emotional or subjective response. Objectivity and truth are, in essence, tools that are needlessly brutal, if applied without caution. The sociopath often does not have the careful handling, unless they have trained themselves to adapt to their surroundings in such a manner. I would advise you, if you wish to engage in a relationship with a sociopath, to leave your emotions at the door. By the definition of Scott Peck MD. “Love is not an emotion. It is commitment.” Naturally, one cannot be committed without being involved. However, for a sociopath to be in a relationship, they have to accept the emotion of their counterpart. Being in a long-term relationship with a sociopath truly allows one to learn the depths of non-attachment and the ability to move forward from a state of emotional anchors. If an individual utilizes critical and logical thought within circumstances of extreme emotion and stress, the situation loses its grasp on the individual. Within any relationship, there are gains and losses. Yet, it is not a battlefield and it should not be treated as such. It is more reminiscent of a sanctuary base, allowing for time to replenish. Numerous couples have constructed a bubble around themselves within their relationship to which they can retreat to, before being fully able to confront the outside world. We all practice a form of escapism. A negative coping mechanism that has outlived its usefulness. However, for a sociopath, their personality development goes back much further. During the period of early childhood, the sociopath is faced with an inevitable decision that cannot be delayed. The sociopath has a will of iron. Yet, even iron breaks under pressure. The choice is whether to kill or not to kill. It requires an enormous amount of will to not follow your natural impulses. Due to the lack of emotional connection, the outbursts that can occur are beyond an explosion of force. For them, there is no difference between a slap, dislocating the kneecap or driving a pencil through the neck. There is no punishing a sociopath, they will merely stare blankly. However, their understanding of their actions is profound due to the objective nature. They understand that they have violated human rights, yet they do not understand why they are being punished. Most importantly, sociopaths are only prone to provoked violence. If they are pushed too far, they will kill. It is as simple as that.

The difference between the psychopath and the sociopath is that they draw no pleasure from their deeds. They are indifferent. To them, it is a action-reaction reflex. As much as a sociopath is unemotional, it is all dependent upon their state of mind. As they show very little or no emotional basis for this, one simply has to observe their response. It is the choice between sitting on the ground, watching a stranger burning to death, and putting out the flame. Often it is a point of convenience. Other times, it is a point of kindness. In regards to my personal experiences with a sociopath, I do not for a moment regret my decision of engaging in a relationship with him. Though the lack of emotion can become tiresome, one evolves to maintaining ones presence of mind in any circumstance. Knowing that every individual is different, you have to take them at their stride or become monk and cut oneself off of society. To be a sociopath in todays society has truly become being at odds with everything. They do not care which celebrity rises or falls. They do not care about Simon Cowells’ bowel movements. They do not care whether their neighbor has a new lawnmower. It should be noted that they are single-minded and tenacious in their approach. They are also more likely to try things out despite of the advice of others, mainly as others view it from a subjective standpoint. One requires to develop a clear mind and social will, when dealing with a sociopath. Everyone should have a sociopath in their life, merely for an occasion calm, unemotional perspective. As the sociopath has chosen the path of society, thus he must act as others do, hiding within plain sight.