Dating a Higher Functioning Sociopath – Part 3

Within mating, any individual forms a conscious or unconscious template of a suitable partner. This is often referred to as the love-map. It is constructed during early childhood between the ages of 3 and 6. The mental image of a suitable mate however is ever-changing, and is customized according to the individuals reality matrix. If this concept were to be combined with the overall socially engineered preference towards taller males, due to the ancient myth of height equals strength, suddenly a conception has been created that terrifies most of society. The short, highly intelligent sociopath. One that doesn’t take no for an answer, when faced with hypocrisy or social politics. Personally, I am of the opinion that anyone is capable of anything, if they perceive the situation calls for it or their survival is dependent upon it. Short or tall. Both groups are fully capable of genocidal acts. Nonetheless, throughout the recent years, I have noticed a pattern amongst individuals in my life. The partner can do anything, be unemployed, not have a car or even pay the bills, as long as he is of sufficient height for individuals to not wish to argue against it. Yet, if you were to then put a short individual in front of them, they change their opinion 180 degrees, refuting and denying their previous viewpoint to the point of utter irrationality. Another time, a close friend actually stated that she is disgusted by short men. When I enquired about her reasoning, she stated that they were the scum of society and one shouldn’t associate oneself with them for too long. These are mere justifications towards an opinion that is overly judgmental over an individual that she had never encountered.

There are two conversation blockers. Sociopathy and Heightism. Once the conversational partner has processed both subjects separately, one may actually be able to combine the concept without them running for the hills. Why is it that society appears to be so utterly terrified by the short, higher functioning sociopath? To the degree of complete disacknowledgement of the facts. A wise man reminded me about a fact that I learnt a long time ago, sociopathy is a scale. With childhood sociopathy even more so, as the individual is still progressing through vital stages of development. There are variant degrees of severity. In my professional opinion, sociopaths are either abnormally feared or approached with extreme bias. Mankind has become so caught up with their feelings that the absence of reaction or emotional feedback irritates and provokes them often bringing further imbalance to their rational mind. It is often stated that the presence of a Monk radiates undisturbed calmness and tranquility, soothing those around them. Yet, a monk displays a level of the same traits as the sociopath. How does the presence of one calm and the other agitate? The stigma that is attached to mere mention of the term sociopath is often wrongfully connected with psychopathy, which merely complicates the full comprehension of the condition. However, society in itself is becoming more indifferent towards one another, displaying more sociopathic and psychopathic traits. There is, however, one preconception that does not apply with the combination of heightism and sociopathy. That height equals strength. Truth be told, I’d fight a tall guy one-on-one any day. Short guy, no way. They fight too rough. I’ve seen one short male drop three 6’4ft thugs in under 1 minute. Mind you, I’ve only met two short sociopaths in my life, the others were all 6ft and above. The taller sociopaths that I have encountered were more prone to violence, although all of them were above average intelligence, they had become accustomed to prefer the use of their fists. The short sociopaths were of highly intelligence with knowledge of the practical applications regarding their ideas. A few I would consider geniuses for their contributions towards science and humanity itself. One revolutionized genetics when he has around 10 years old by composing an academic paper for a Californian Institute. Another mastered the depth of mathematics during his teenage years. Truth be told, a book should not be judged by its cover. Humanity is becoming less caring of their fellow man, more prone to emotional outbursts and displays a general disconnection towards the outside world as well as other members of society. That is in itself is a sociopathic trait. Mankind is often too quick to judge, yet unwilling to change themselves, still in denial regarding their gradual increase of despondence and indifference. A stage of evolution is approaching humanity and it is your choice, which way you will take.

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Dating a Higher Functioning Sociopath – Part 2

It should be noted that the mere clinical diagnosis of childhood sociopathy does not equal inevitable doom or the birth of a natural killer. The psychopath for instance is more prone to certain characteristics that are perpetuated by emotion. Certain traits overlap, which will be explain further. Experimentation is a trait experienced more by psychopaths. Sociopaths will experiment socially with the emotions and reactions of others. Due to the lack of emotion that is felt and expressed, the childhood sociopath has to adapt to an environment, which is based upon emotional concepts that they struggle to grasp per their nature. The childhood sociopath requires to learn their own social boundaries. Truth be told, they necessitate early education in ethics around the age of 3 to avoid certain mishaps during the process. Yes, “normal” parents can give birth to a sociopathic infant. Genetics operate through the family-line. It can skip generations. Countless ancestors throughout mankind has fought wars and committed genocide for the sake of a peace that still has not been established.

Traits of the Higher Functioning Sociopath:

1. Charisma & Charm:

The sociopath is a wordsmith…A master of words. They know how to act accordingly to a situation without the bias of emotion. Yet, sociopaths like all others have their own dress-code. It is still a point of genetic and environmental influence that allows for certain traits to flourish. They can adapt to all levels of their society and alter their clothes accordingly. This can also be viewed in their mannerisms and linguistic use, as it will change, according to the individual. They adopt the heir of their surroundings. If they with the rich and powerful, everything about them would lead you to believe that that is their natural place within society. The act would be flawless. Yet, later on the same day, they could be in a drug den and one would naturally assume that they have always been there. Socially inclined sociopaths often become the pillar or bastion of their social environment. At the same time, as becoming the very same pillar for the opposite side of that environment (ie. Both hunter and prey). For only then are you in a true position to control and do as you will.

2. Lack of Connection To The Past

Sociopaths within their social circles, as they can hold both sides of a social spectrum, they have to not care about “the past.”. They will participate in activities with one individual and the same evening, they will engage in an opposing set of activities with another. Often, they will tell others that which they wish to hear. More often than not, this merely saves them the agony of coldly spitting out the truth and becoming a symbol of heresy for doing so.  There is no connection to the time-frame of the past. They could have been wronged at the age of 3 or 33. An experience, perceived negatively by the sociopath, could have occurred at the 3 and at the age of 33, as the best men at the transgressors wedding, the sociopath could snap his neck in front of the aisle for a wrongdoing that occurred 30 years ago. The sociopath does not recognize the difference between the time of incident or level of effect. That can only be learnt through explanation or experience.

3. Ego

Not all narcissists are sociopaths. Not all sociopaths are narcissists. Like with all other human beings, the ego can be controlled and removed. Is it truly ego when you truly can and are willing to do what you are saying? With the childhood sociopath, they grow up knowing it. It is an inbuilt knowledge. The power of will and single-mindedness. Is it truly paranoia, if you’re just? People often forget that the sociopath is right, they get caught up in the biology and emotional effect of the event. The sociopath does not wish to move on until they have coerced the other individual to discuss that which they consider an overly emotional state or reaction. Due to the lack of emotion, it is not necessarily arrogance, it is the lack of care to lie. The truth is often much more effective to place others in a state of discomfort. No one argues the truth. Thus the fallback is emotion, excuses and justification, which the sociopath often shatters in order to unveil the actual truth. Furthermore, ego requires emotion. Ego requires a need or even urge. If it is not ego, then it is merely the knowledge of self. The knowledge of what you are capable of.

4. Deceptive Capabilities

The sociopatb can manipulate and deceive their environment, when the need requires it. Like certain other traits with the sociopath, they can be switched on and off like a light switch. The amount of social control it requires to maintain that many lies, yet only the necessity arises. However, the manipulation is second nature to them. It is who they are. Society often does not allow them to disobey societal conventions. They are disgusted by the hypocrisy, which they face on a daily basis from the individuals around them, due to this so called the constant deceptions that occurs around them whether they participate in it or not. They seek individual that are more themselves, rather than those discussing what Simon Cowell had for dinner last night, which in itself is a manipulation of society that is deceiving the public from the truth in their world and pathological lies that Simon Cowell represents is publicly permitted, if not heralded, is simply hypocrisy, as we all follow.

 5. Sexual Magnetism

As previously mentioned, they are masters at camouflaging themselves physically, mentally and emotionally. Their knowledge of how individuals act and react according to their current social surroundings enables them to appear to proverbial sex-god to their chosen target. Attraction and arousal originate within the mind, due to the sociopaths knowledge of society, anyone is attainable, you just have to know what to do and who to do it to. With those two concept, anything can be achieved. It is however scientifically proven that sociopaths possess a higher testosterone level.

6. Flair for Drama

Once the applied social engineering has been perfected, the sociopath holds all the strings. The sociopath are one of the most uncontrolled type. Whereas most individual possess emotionally based requirements, the sociopath does not, therefore causing them to become the loose cannon, if you wish to control them. In the society of control, the sociopath is naturally on top, as they cannot be controlled. For them, it is either let them live or kill them. By allowing them to live, you permit them to finish that which they wish to complete in life. By killing them, you merely cease their ability to do so. These are the only two ways to stop a sociopath.

7. Predatory Stare

In a world controlled by emotion, everyone is game for the sociopath. Everyone that in controlled by emotion, that is. They have no shame or conscience and cannot take other seriously when they are influenced by emotions. To the sociopath, “normal” individuals are the ones that behave stupidly or ignorantly, once they have entirely lost their presence of mind in a wild tangent of emotion. There is nothing pro-survival about such a state of mind to them. It is a waste of time and energy. It is best to conserve ones energy for more productive matters. If the emotional aspect would be deleted from the ordinary citizen, the occurrence of a traumatic event becomes simple. That which has been clouded by emotions becomes clear. Yet, bear in mind, due to the lack of emotion experienced, they are prone to explosions of anger, if actions do not run according to plan. Although it is the little things, the large things are faced with a calm, emotionless stare. (The predator inclines hunting sheep. The sociopath does not view himself as the fox, hunting the sheep. He views himself as the farmer, culling the herd.)

8. Lack of Conscience

The sociopaths lack of emotional connection inevitable affects his sense of empathy, yet not the sense of understanding. He understands the consequence of stabbing a pencil through the neck, yet to the average human being it is considered an overreaction. The sociopaths fails to recognize it as such by nature. They do not have a punch up. They maim or kill. There is no enjoyment is fighting for them. They do not have the conscience to facilitate the differentiation between right and wrong. They possess no social conscience, no feelings within them that will alert them of the possible unethical nature of their actions. Therefore, childhood sociopaths that have been educated in ethics and socially acceptable behavior know the exact difference between their actions, yet they are still fighting an internal impulse.

{As sociopaths are free from psychosis, sadism, pedophilia, they control on society would be, if not extreme, but humane.}

Dating a Higher Functioning Sociopath – Part 1

Living with a sociopath is not easy…It is living the way of will with them.

There are countless types of men. It was Carl Jung that proposed to uniqueness of every psyche and therefore every living being. Yet, there are genetic predispositions, which affect the manner in which the consciousness functions within the pre-selected body. Sociopathy is neurologically defined as exhibiting characteristics that imply a reduced input and output of emotion. Consequently, they perceive the phenomenal world in an entirely different manner. It should also be noted that the military refuses to allow sociopaths to participate in the lower ranks of the army. As the end justifies the means for them. As a professional counselor, I more often than not encounter articles that are scientifically flawed, as they intertwine psychopathy and sociopathy, which are two entirely different congenital “disorders”. After years of working with individuals that have become numbed by emotion with very little social will or ability to distance themselves from the drama that is being continually perpetuated by them. I at one point also went down that very same path, yet managed to avert my own self-destructive tendencies in order to provide support for others. I have discovered that the human inclination to become caught up in emotion is also that which repels us in regards to sociopaths. Not all their viewpoints are extreme. We often picture them as evil incarnate. The man or woman that is incapable of love and cannot be loyal to anyone. This statement is utterly inaccurate. The emotional connection is reduced. This does not imply that it is non-existent. Truth be told, sociopaths are often tormented by external circumstances due to their lack of emotional or subjective response. Objectivity and truth are, in essence, tools that are needlessly brutal, if applied without caution. The sociopath often does not have the careful handling, unless they have trained themselves to adapt to their surroundings in such a manner. I would advise you, if you wish to engage in a relationship with a sociopath, to leave your emotions at the door. By the definition of Scott Peck MD. “Love is not an emotion. It is commitment.” Naturally, one cannot be committed without being involved. However, for a sociopath to be in a relationship, they have to accept the emotion of their counterpart. Being in a long-term relationship with a sociopath truly allows one to learn the depths of non-attachment and the ability to move forward from a state of emotional anchors. If an individual utilizes critical and logical thought within circumstances of extreme emotion and stress, the situation loses its grasp on the individual. Within any relationship, there are gains and losses. Yet, it is not a battlefield and it should not be treated as such. It is more reminiscent of a sanctuary base, allowing for time to replenish. Numerous couples have constructed a bubble around themselves within their relationship to which they can retreat to, before being fully able to confront the outside world. We all practice a form of escapism. A negative coping mechanism that has outlived its usefulness. However, for a sociopath, their personality development goes back much further. During the period of early childhood, the sociopath is faced with an inevitable decision that cannot be delayed. The sociopath has a will of iron. Yet, even iron breaks under pressure. The choice is whether to kill or not to kill. It requires an enormous amount of will to not follow your natural impulses. Due to the lack of emotional connection, the outbursts that can occur are beyond an explosion of force. For them, there is no difference between a slap, dislocating the kneecap or driving a pencil through the neck. There is no punishing a sociopath, they will merely stare blankly. However, their understanding of their actions is profound due to the objective nature. They understand that they have violated human rights, yet they do not understand why they are being punished. Most importantly, sociopaths are only prone to provoked violence. If they are pushed too far, they will kill. It is as simple as that.

The difference between the psychopath and the sociopath is that they draw no pleasure from their deeds. They are indifferent. To them, it is a action-reaction reflex. As much as a sociopath is unemotional, it is all dependent upon their state of mind. As they show very little or no emotional basis for this, one simply has to observe their response. It is the choice between sitting on the ground, watching a stranger burning to death, and putting out the flame. Often it is a point of convenience. Other times, it is a point of kindness. In regards to my personal experiences with a sociopath, I do not for a moment regret my decision of engaging in a relationship with him. Though the lack of emotion can become tiresome, one evolves to maintaining ones presence of mind in any circumstance. Knowing that every individual is different, you have to take them at their stride or become monk and cut oneself off of society. To be a sociopath in todays society has truly become being at odds with everything. They do not care which celebrity rises or falls. They do not care about Simon Cowells’ bowel movements. They do not care whether their neighbor has a new lawnmower. It should be noted that they are single-minded and tenacious in their approach. They are also more likely to try things out despite of the advice of others, mainly as others view it from a subjective standpoint. One requires to develop a clear mind and social will, when dealing with a sociopath. Everyone should have a sociopath in their life, merely for an occasion calm, unemotional perspective. As the sociopath has chosen the path of society, thus he must act as others do, hiding within plain sight.