Regardless what we have endured in the past, in order to be a part of a healthy relationship, we must forgive and move forward with the knowledge and experience, which we have gained so far.
We must try to never waste our energy on blame, anger or hatred. It is our choice how we respond to the wrongs done to us. Once we begin to plot revenge and follow through with it, we could eventually find ourselves at an impass (e.g. a point, when we can no longer return to our former identity). However, if the perfect relationship has already turned sour, then we perhaps couldn’t care less about what will happen to us…Therefore, it is necessary to carefully reflect on our relationship history, before we act in ways, we could potentially regret at a later date.