There is a point in life, in which we rid ourselves of our child-selves, as it may and step into a world of responsibility. Our own life becomes nothing but responsibility. Yet, with responsibility comes power and that is the objective of too many human beings. Truth be told, I personally reached such a stage. After years of being in a relationship, in which I am the provider, the comments of others begin to lose their meaning. Gender roles should not be the issue here. Within a compromised world, the entire family unit will be required to slave for the clothes on their back. However, there is only so many times you can watch yourself bleed or ignore the bruises that the world has left you with. Mutual responsibility states that both individuals share the entire blame, as both entered the circumstance, knowing the probable consequences. Only those affected by emotion and unable to accept their part of the responsibility will deny their role. The truth about modern society can often be so harsh that the masses will shield themselves from it. Blame is shifted here more than anywhere else. Social taboos only persist, since society as a whole cannot acknowledge its responsibility for producing them. Every action contains a wide range of possible reactions, some more probable than others. The interconnected nature of the universe, amongst other things, suggests that the visible separation of objects and individuals is illusory, consequently the attachment that we hold towards our external reality is highly misleading. In the end, none of us are truly alone, yet none of us are truly enlightened either.
Nonetheless, trust is defined by the reliance of integrity, capability or characteristics of an individual or object and within modern society it is formed slowly, if at all. We would all give our lives for something or someone without a moment’s hesitation. Yet, when we are forced to live out the consequences of such a choice, the final outcome differs from the original blueprint of the plan. However, when we actively seek to discover such determination and force of will within ourselves, it alters our character. By tuning into our inner strength, we become limitless. Capable of overcoming anything and everything that may step into our path. No matter how painful. No matter how soul-crushing the experience may be. Yet, there will always be those that seek to break the will of another, at times even crush it beyond the point of return. I’ve encountered a few in my time. It is a harsh experience for another to mould you like clay. Underneath none of us are set in stone. We are like water, we choose the path of least resistance. Although there are others, such as myself, that withstand up to the point of breaking with an inbuilt safety switch, which spells genocide. Western Civilisation is a cosy location for most individuals, except for molested children, child trafficking victims, rape victims, fighting troops, the homeless and those starving on the streets. If you have ever been any of the above, you’ll know what I mean. There are certain circumstances that you simply cannot be yourself again afterwards. This is commonly referred to as a shift in consciousness. Thanatologists refer to it as a form of emotional death, which can trigger an overload, when the trauma is compounded too severely in a short period of time. Individuals that have suffered such an experience before are twice as likely to suffer it again and emerge stronger, if they can fight their way through. A piece of personal advice, do not rely on your social circles, unless they are rock-solid with a steady track record of providing support. You’d merely end up causing yourself more deep-rooted damage than it’s worth. Secondly, learn to detach and walk away, if necessary, to prevent further exposure or risk to yourself. There are few things that you cannot simply walk away from, others simply require further determination, but the most important thing is that you do what you consider to be the right thing. Recently, I skimmed through some of my old study materials, mainly basic anatomy and physiology before progressing to trauma medicine. And to cut a long story short, that which I was reading reminded me of the very first time that I was raped. If you’ve never slept with anyone beforehand, it certainly leaves an impression. Most men and women spend years attempting to move on from it. It becomes a tainted first experience that if you want it or not affects the mind. Yet, I was young at the time and had not completed half the training in psychology that I have now. I picked myself up and carried going, until the second time. The most dangerous part here is that the individual can disconnect too rapidly and too severely, which results in rationalizing the experience in a manner that harms the emotional potential of the individual, yet not the overall mental growth. Similar to suppressing one and forcing the other to grow into excess, resulting in an imbalance. Most rape victims know that the world does not stop simply since they’ve got a bad day. The rent and bills need to be paid. The attendance record at work needs to be spotless. And some still need to perform sexually as if nothing happened with their partners. So, after the second time, I learnt to move on without flinching. To take a hit and keep on going, as if nothing happened. Within the modern world, where everything travels at such a fast pace, there are very few moments to catch a breath and clear ones head. And even less individuals take the time to recuperate in private. I’ve learnt by experience that the methods of social engineering have spread to the furthest corners of the globe and in the end there is no other escape from them than to grow immune and detached from them. To basically become of little use to anyone involved within modern society, as they are mainly dependent upon them. A word of caution, detachment brings countless gifts to the practitioners doorstep, yet one has to be careful not to detach to severely in a short period of time as that can be accompanied with repercussions and emotional outbursts. In retrospect, one should not push oneself over the edge or allow others to do the same. That which you identify with defines you on a deep level. Now, imagine you were to take each and every aspect away from yourself. Bit by bit. Whatever is left, which is nothing, ultimately defines you. There are no material riches. Your weight will not be measured in gold. In fact, you will feel as if you are being stripped of everything that you are.
Ultimately, that is not true. To attain true non-attachment means to distance yourself on every level down to your very core from everything that you perceive affects you, makes you or compromises your perspective. Every single material possession, including your house, your car, the very clothes on your back and food in your fridge. Every single emotional or psychological attachment or social contact that you have ever formed, without allowing it to affect your emotional or mental state as well as communication skills. Although your presence of mind will feel as if it is being torn apart under attack, you grow stronger from it, as it represents as a pure state of self-sufficiency, in which you are entirely independent and disconnected without one singular aspect of the phenomenal world interfering with your state of mind. Disconnecting, in essence, refers to an undisturbed awareness of reality without any forms of emotional bias, judgement, desire, power or attachment towards the situation at hand.
There are at all times individuals that hold opposite goals and values. We all follow a variant methodology of operation when it comes down to living our life. Yet, there will always be those that seek to live off of the generosity and good will of others. Often, there is an unspoken agreement of exchange within society. One hand washes the other, as favours are traded. Exceptions, however, mark the rule. What about the step-father that sneaks into their adopted sons or daughters bedroom, when she is far too young to legally consent to sexual activities or even mentally make sense of them? I strongly recommend the practice of non-violence and there are very few occasions I would justify the use of self-defence, if it results in degenerative injuries that affect motor function, but that is one of them. Every individual is responsible for who they associate themselves with, even when they are born into the circumstances. Perhaps, in Buddhism or Hinduism, it would be especially when they are born into these horrific circumstances. Do not let all that suffering be in vain, but let it drive you one s