Dating a Higher Functioning Sociopath – Part 2

It should be noted that the mere clinical diagnosis of childhood sociopathy does not equal inevitable doom or the birth of a natural killer. The psychopath for instance is more prone to certain characteristics that are perpetuated by emotion. Certain traits overlap, which will be explain further. Experimentation is a trait experienced more by psychopaths. Sociopaths will experiment socially with the emotions and reactions of others. Due to the lack of emotion that is felt and expressed, the childhood sociopath has to adapt to an environment, which is based upon emotional concepts that they struggle to grasp per their nature. The childhood sociopath requires to learn their own social boundaries. Truth be told, they necessitate early education in ethics around the age of 3 to avoid certain mishaps during the process. Yes, “normal” parents can give birth to a sociopathic infant. Genetics operate through the family-line. It can skip generations. Countless ancestors throughout mankind has fought wars and committed genocide for the sake of a peace that still has not been established.

Traits of the Higher Functioning Sociopath:

1. Charisma & Charm:

The sociopath is a wordsmith…A master of words. They know how to act accordingly to a situation without the bias of emotion. Yet, sociopaths like all others have their own dress-code. It is still a point of genetic and environmental influence that allows for certain traits to flourish. They can adapt to all levels of their society and alter their clothes accordingly. This can also be viewed in their mannerisms and linguistic use, as it will change, according to the individual. They adopt the heir of their surroundings. If they with the rich and powerful, everything about them would lead you to believe that that is their natural place within society. The act would be flawless. Yet, later on the same day, they could be in a drug den and one would naturally assume that they have always been there. Socially inclined sociopaths often become the pillar or bastion of their social environment. At the same time, as becoming the very same pillar for the opposite side of that environment (ie. Both hunter and prey). For only then are you in a true position to control and do as you will.

2. Lack of Connection To The Past

Sociopaths within their social circles, as they can hold both sides of a social spectrum, they have to not care about “the past.”. They will participate in activities with one individual and the same evening, they will engage in an opposing set of activities with another. Often, they will tell others that which they wish to hear. More often than not, this merely saves them the agony of coldly spitting out the truth and becoming a symbol of heresy for doing so.  There is no connection to the time-frame of the past. They could have been wronged at the age of 3 or 33. An experience, perceived negatively by the sociopath, could have occurred at the 3 and at the age of 33, as the best men at the transgressors wedding, the sociopath could snap his neck in front of the aisle for a wrongdoing that occurred 30 years ago. The sociopath does not recognize the difference between the time of incident or level of effect. That can only be learnt through explanation or experience.

3. Ego

Not all narcissists are sociopaths. Not all sociopaths are narcissists. Like with all other human beings, the ego can be controlled and removed. Is it truly ego when you truly can and are willing to do what you are saying? With the childhood sociopath, they grow up knowing it. It is an inbuilt knowledge. The power of will and single-mindedness. Is it truly paranoia, if you’re just? People often forget that the sociopath is right, they get caught up in the biology and emotional effect of the event. The sociopath does not wish to move on until they have coerced the other individual to discuss that which they consider an overly emotional state or reaction. Due to the lack of emotion, it is not necessarily arrogance, it is the lack of care to lie. The truth is often much more effective to place others in a state of discomfort. No one argues the truth. Thus the fallback is emotion, excuses and justification, which the sociopath often shatters in order to unveil the actual truth. Furthermore, ego requires emotion. Ego requires a need or even urge. If it is not ego, then it is merely the knowledge of self. The knowledge of what you are capable of.

4. Deceptive Capabilities

The sociopatb can manipulate and deceive their environment, when the need requires it. Like certain other traits with the sociopath, they can be switched on and off like a light switch. The amount of social control it requires to maintain that many lies, yet only the necessity arises. However, the manipulation is second nature to them. It is who they are. Society often does not allow them to disobey societal conventions. They are disgusted by the hypocrisy, which they face on a daily basis from the individuals around them, due to this so called the constant deceptions that occurs around them whether they participate in it or not. They seek individual that are more themselves, rather than those discussing what Simon Cowell had for dinner last night, which in itself is a manipulation of society that is deceiving the public from the truth in their world and pathological lies that Simon Cowell represents is publicly permitted, if not heralded, is simply hypocrisy, as we all follow.

 5. Sexual Magnetism

As previously mentioned, they are masters at camouflaging themselves physically, mentally and emotionally. Their knowledge of how individuals act and react according to their current social surroundings enables them to appear to proverbial sex-god to their chosen target. Attraction and arousal originate within the mind, due to the sociopaths knowledge of society, anyone is attainable, you just have to know what to do and who to do it to. With those two concept, anything can be achieved. It is however scientifically proven that sociopaths possess a higher testosterone level.

6. Flair for Drama

Once the applied social engineering has been perfected, the sociopath holds all the strings. The sociopath are one of the most uncontrolled type. Whereas most individual possess emotionally based requirements, the sociopath does not, therefore causing them to become the loose cannon, if you wish to control them. In the society of control, the sociopath is naturally on top, as they cannot be controlled. For them, it is either let them live or kill them. By allowing them to live, you permit them to finish that which they wish to complete in life. By killing them, you merely cease their ability to do so. These are the only two ways to stop a sociopath.

7. Predatory Stare

In a world controlled by emotion, everyone is game for the sociopath. Everyone that in controlled by emotion, that is. They have no shame or conscience and cannot take other seriously when they are influenced by emotions. To the sociopath, “normal” individuals are the ones that behave stupidly or ignorantly, once they have entirely lost their presence of mind in a wild tangent of emotion. There is nothing pro-survival about such a state of mind to them. It is a waste of time and energy. It is best to conserve ones energy for more productive matters. If the emotional aspect would be deleted from the ordinary citizen, the occurrence of a traumatic event becomes simple. That which has been clouded by emotions becomes clear. Yet, bear in mind, due to the lack of emotion experienced, they are prone to explosions of anger, if actions do not run according to plan. Although it is the little things, the large things are faced with a calm, emotionless stare. (The predator inclines hunting sheep. The sociopath does not view himself as the fox, hunting the sheep. He views himself as the farmer, culling the herd.)

8. Lack of Conscience

The sociopaths lack of emotional connection inevitable affects his sense of empathy, yet not the sense of understanding. He understands the consequence of stabbing a pencil through the neck, yet to the average human being it is considered an overreaction. The sociopaths fails to recognize it as such by nature. They do not have a punch up. They maim or kill. There is no enjoyment is fighting for them. They do not have the conscience to facilitate the differentiation between right and wrong. They possess no social conscience, no feelings within them that will alert them of the possible unethical nature of their actions. Therefore, childhood sociopaths that have been educated in ethics and socially acceptable behavior know the exact difference between their actions, yet they are still fighting an internal impulse.

{As sociopaths are free from psychosis, sadism, pedophilia, they control on society would be, if not extreme, but humane.}

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8 thoughts on “Dating a Higher Functioning Sociopath – Part 2

  1. Some of what you have said here is true, however, a lot of this is over blown misconception. You should understand that psychopathy is a scale and that a lot of what you have said is extreme. We’re not all that bad.

    • The above statements are meant more as a summarization of previous personal and professional experience. All individuals suffering from borderline sociopathic or psychopathic tendencies and more extreme inclinations were included. It should be noted that most of my work experience stems from clinical hours involving criminally insane individuals. Rest assured, there are countless of functioning psychopaths and sociopaths within society that are living independently and seemingly according to the word of law. Similar to psychopathy, sociopathy is also a scale. The degrees of severity and psychopathology vary from individual to individual. If I may ask, what parts did you consider to be an overblown misconception and/or extreme?

      • “They do not have the conscience to facilitate the differentiation between right and wrong” this is not strictly true. I know the difference, but I am free to choose whether or not to comply

      • Yes, within clinical psychology this would be classed as personal choice. The choice that every individual makes. Sociopaths make the choice between compliance and non-compliance. That is the difference between sociopaths and the rest of society. The ability to make the choice that no one else can make. To ask the question that no one else asks. And the question is almost invariably the same. “Why?” or “Why not?”.

      • I agree. I would have to say that sociopaths get a bad rap though. Everybody seems to look only at the most extreme cases and never at anything else. I personally score very highly on scales of psychopathy/sociopathy

      • It has to be mentioned that they are different conditions. It not possible to have one whilst having the other, which is a common misconception. It is also a common misconception that they are the same thing. They are different sides of a coin. I agree wholeheartedly, sociopaths are often labelled as incapable of love or born killers, which is not simply inaccurate, yet also truly unjust. Truth be told, most sociopaths are of above average intelligence, which separates them from a large majority of society. Additionally, they are not emotionally affected whilst forming decisions or opinions, which sets them apart from most of society, but most of all from psychopaths that are often purely driven by their emotional and social requirements and psychopathology.

      • Agreed, although the two conditions are linked and do share certain aspects

      • The two conditions are only linked via anti-social personality disorders. There is no true academic link between the two conditions, as they possess entirely different causal and genetic factors. Although they do share certain traits, the psychopath is mainly emotionally driven, whereas the sociopath is not. Yet the same thing could be said about a monk.

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